A conversation over coffee last week centered around how we all adapt to any new environment, and I offered up the Feisty One as an example of someone who had it figured out from birth. Watching her walk into every new school leaves me sitting in the school car park in tears, while she sets her shoulders, pastes a smile onto her face, and proceeds to network like a New York socialite.
Somehow, she has decoded the unspoken rules that guide social acceptance, and while her group of friends may change over time, within 15 minutes of setting foot somewhere new she’s worked out the social groups, the codes of behavior, and just who her new friends are going to be.
For the rest of us, here are the relocation lessons that we have learned, lived and long since forgotten..
Everyone is scared, but we all have different ways of showing it. Some get louder, some get quieter, some giggle, some snarl. Don’t let your fear define you, or how you judge others. A little patience goes a very long way.
The sooner you make a friend, the better it will be. Because two heads are better than one when it comes to figuring it all out, facing the world, and sharing the fun.
You’ll miss home and family, but you’ll learn to enjoy the time away and cherish the holidays spent together.
Some days are better than others. Some days, you just have to wait it out.
Some lessons you will love, some you will like, and some you will hate. Having favorites is good, but time and perspective will teach you that the ones you liked the least taught you the most.
People can be mean, but the earlier you learn how to deal with them, the easier your life will be.
Look after your lunch money. Mom won’t always be there to bail you out.
Your behavior affects the whole school, so choose your actions wisely.
Don’t believe all that you are told. Consider the source of your information carefully, and then decide the real story for yourself.
Being prepared feels a great deal better than arriving knowing that you didn’t do your homework.
Not doing your homework is the fastest way into trouble.
Being rude is the second fastest.
Breaking something once and you might be forgiven, break it twice and you’ve lost their trust forever.
You can do anything you set your mind to with practice, patience and help from others.